I’m 35 and pregnant with my first child, but my husband **Ryan**, 33, hasn’t held a job since 2023. I’ve been pinching pennies, cutting back on everything to prepare for our baby’s arrival… meanwhile, he refuses to give up his \$250-a-week massages — nearly \$1,000 a month.
Me: *“Ryan, I can’t pay for this anymore. We need that money for the baby.”*
Ryan: *“I’M USED TO HER. SHE KNOWS MY BODY. I CAN’T JUST SWITCH TO SOME CHEAP PLACE.”*
I thought maybe he’d finally listened. Until my card was declined while trying to buy diapers. My heart sank.
Turns out, Ryan had silently maxed it out — another \$1,000 gone.
Me: *“You STOLE from me!”*
Ryan (smirking): *“Stop playing victim. I’m stressed too. YOUR money is MY money.”*
I was shaking with fury. And then, out of nowhere, his mom **Patricia** called.
Patricia: *“Sweetheart, is it true? Did he really take your money for massages?”*
Me: *“Yes. Every word.”*
Patricia (snorting): *“Oh, he’s about to learn. Don’t worry, I’ll handle it.”*
Not even an hour later, Ryan’s voice thundered through the house.
*“NO, MOM!! YOU CAN’T DO THIS TO ME!!!”*
And that’s when everything shifted.
I rushed into the living room, my heart pounding. Ryan was pacing, his face red, phone in hand.
*“WHAT DID YOU SAY TO HER?!”* he barked at me.
Before I could answer, his mother’s voice boomed from the speaker. *“Ryan, I’ve had enough. You’re done using your wife like an ATM. I just froze your access to the family trust. Don’t bother begging. And if you don’t get a job within the month, I’m cutting you off completely.”*
Ryan’s jaw dropped. “MOM, YOU CAN’T DO THIS TO ME!”
Patricia’s reply was ice-cold: *“Watch me. You’re about to be a father. Start acting like one, or you’ll have nothing — not my money, not her support, not even a roof over your head.”*
The line went dead.
Ryan hurled the phone onto the couch, breathing hard like a trapped animal. “She wouldn’t… she can’t—”
I stood there, my hand on my belly, feeling the tiny kick inside me. My voice came out steadier than I felt. “She can. And so can I. If you don’t change, Ryan, I’ll raise this baby without you.”
For once, he had nothing to say. The man who smirked while draining my bank account now looked small, cornered, and stripped of excuses.
And in that silence, I realized something: whether or not he stepped up, I would be fine. My baby and I would be fine.
Because unlike Ryan, I knew how to fight for someone other than myself.
