Attraction does not always follow a straight or predictable path. For many people, it shifts over time, changing in intensity or focus. While this can feel confusing, it is more common than often acknowledged. One term used to describe this experience is abrosexuality.
Writer Emma Flint shared her personal journey with abrosexuality in a July 2024 essay for Metro UK. For much of her life, she struggled to find a label that truly fit. Her attraction changed over time, leaving her unsure where she belonged.
At 32, Flint reflected on years of identifying as a lesbian, then later feeling attraction to men, and sometimes to no one at all. These shifts repeated, bringing confusion and self-doubt. She described feeling lost and worried that changing labels made her seem inauthentic.
Flint later realized her experience was not indecision but fluidity. Her sexuality was not fixed, and that realization helped her understand herself better. When she discovered the word abrosexual, it brought clarity and relief. For the first time, she felt seen.
Abrosexuality is a lesser-known identity within the LGBTQ+ spectrum. Healthline defines it as a form of sexual fluidity where attraction can change over time, including shifts in who someone is attracted to or whether they feel attraction at all.
Unlike bisexuality or pansexuality, which describe attraction to multiple genders, abrosexuality focuses on change itself. A person’s feelings may evolve over days, months, or years, with no set pattern or timeline.
Flint says she values loving the person rather than focusing on gender. Still, she has faced criticism from people who believe identities must stay consistent to be valid.
Her story highlights the importance of language and understanding. Abrosexuality, like all identities, reflects the complexity of human experience—and recognizing it can help people feel less alone and more accepted.
