Monk and her $2,430 wedding dress were covered in paint as she made her way toward her husband-to-be at an elegant venue in Maidstone. The damage was immediate, public, and impossible to ignore, leaving guests stunned as the ceremony was thrown into chaos before it had even begun.
Her sister-in-law, Antonia Eastwood, was later identified as the person behind the shocking revenge attack, which happened shortly before Monk exchanged vows in May 2024. What made the moment even harder to process was that the attack came from within the family.
Monk had been preparing to marry her childhood sweetheart, Ken Monk, 39, at Oakwood House Register Office. It was a day the couple had been saving for and dreaming about for a long time, which only made what followed feel even more cruel.
She said she had a bad feeling while traveling to the venue with her father Jason, though at the time he reassured her that it was probably only nerves. Looking back now, she believes that uneasy feeling was warning her that something was wrong.
She later recalled hearing her name being shouted and first assuming someone had accidentally stepped on the back of her dress. But when she turned around, she was suddenly hit with black paint.
Maidstone Crown Court heard that the bride was splattered with paint across her eyes, face, skin, and dress while her bridesmaids and flower girls stood nearby. What should have been a carefully planned entrance instead became the most traumatic part of the day.
Even after her appearance and dress had been badly damaged, Monk said she was determined to go ahead with the wedding. She cleaned herself up as best she could and then changed into a replacement dress that one of the ushers managed to find at the last minute.
“We had waited for that day for so long,” the bride told KentOnline. “Nothing was going to stop me.”
Monk and her husband still went through with the ceremony inside the Victorian mansion, though it ended up starting two hours later than planned. The couple refused to let the attack cancel the wedding completely, even after everything that had happened.
Eastwood had not even been invited to the wedding, but turned up anyway in what was described as an attempt to get revenge during an ongoing family feud between the two couples. That background tension gave the attack a level of planning and intent that the court later took seriously.
How the family feud spilled into the wedding
According to the case, the attack did not come out of nowhere. It grew out of a bitter and unresolved dispute that had already been building between Monk and Eastwood for months before the wedding day arrived.
That history mattered because it changed the incident from a random outburst into something that looked far more deliberate. Instead of a spur-of-the-moment argument, the paint attack was treated as the ugly climax of a feud that had been brewing inside the family.
For Monk, that made the betrayal feel even more personal. It was not only that her wedding had been targeted, but that someone connected to her through family had chosen that exact moment to do it.
The court heard that Eastwood planned the paint attack as a way of getting back at Monk. In other words, the prosecution said it was not an accident, a misunderstanding, or a brief loss of control, but a revenge act carried out on purpose.
Eastwood pleaded guilty to two counts of criminal damage over the incident. She was given a 10-month suspended prison sentence, ordered to pay $6,750 in compensation, complete 160 hours of unpaid work, and was also handed a 10-year restraining order.
The court was told that the venue is believed to have lost more than $6,750 because of what happened that day. So the damage spread beyond the bride and groom, affecting the business and the rest of the event as well.
Specialist cleaners were also unable to fully remove the paint from Monk’s wedding dress. That meant she lost not only the gown itself, but also the chance to pass it down to her daughter one day, which had been part of its sentimental value.
“It is not so much that what you did was upsetting and frightening in the moment, and it was both of those. It was also that you, by what you did, deprived her and her family – the wedding party – of the occasion they deserved and the memories that anyone who gets married cherishes. All this stuff about it being on the spur of the moment – yeah, right. You got it into your head that you wanted to wreck her day. And you did, and it was horrid and nasty and mean.”
Monk, who works as a mental health care worker, later said she developed depression after the attack and has not been able to return to work. The incident did not end when the ceremony finally took place, but continued affecting her long after the wedding day was over.
“This has had a dramatic impact on my life. Since the incident, if it wasn’t for my children or my family, I don’t think I would even get out of bed to care for myself.”
“I have lost all my dignity and good habits in life. I have lost who I used to be. This has turned the most special day of my life into the worst memory I will never forget, and neither will my family.”
She also explained that she and her husband no longer celebrate their wedding anniversaries because of what happened that day. Instead, they now hope to renew their vows in the future so they can try to replace the memory of the attack with something happier.
The couple spent about $10,800 on their wedding at Oakwood House, including a reception at The Fields at Aylesford. What they had planned as a milestone filled with joy instead became a day they now associate with shock, humiliation, and lasting hurt.
